If you are dealing with problems in your relationships, you might be wondering if counseling is right for you. There are many people who benefit from seeing a counselor and have had great experiences and insight. This is especially the case if you are Christian and would like more help knowing how to have more meaningful relationships, while also strengthening your relationship with God. Here are some things that you will learn in counseling.
1. Healthy Boundaries
One of the most important things you will learn in counseling is how to have healthy boundaries with the people that you love. Boundaries are a great way to respect yourself, while also helping those around you learn how to treat you and others. Boundaries are never about punishing others, instead, they are about protecting yourself. For instance, if you have a spouse who is dealing with alcohol abuse and it is affecting your marriage, you can set boundaries relating to drinking. If the person is drinking alcohol, they are not able to be in the house. If they hurt you, physical or emotionally, they know that you will leave. Boundaries will look different to each person, and they are unique in helping the individual feel safe. You need to be able to say what you need to feel safe and loved.
2. Better Communication
Another important part of counseling is learning better how to communicate. Communication is key in any relationship and many times people struggle, not because they don't love each other enough, but because they aren't communicating in a way that each other understand. You can solve these problems by better learning about your spouse and their communication style. Some people don't talk much, but that doesn't mean that they aren't communicating. If you can figure out how the people in your life communicate, how they show and feel love, it will be life changing.
3. Better Understand Yourself
Even if your going to counseling to heal your relationships, you will be surprised how much you better understand yourself in the process. In order to heal relationships you will have to change things about yourself. In the process you will find places where you create problems in relationships and what you can do to fix them. By better understanding yourself and the things that you do to heal and damage relationships you can have better interactions with those around you.
By going to counseling, you can learn important concepts to add to your personal christian workbook and improve your life.